Thursday, November 1, 2012
Friday, October 26, 2012
Quick Preview
I am planning on posting some more details about Saturday and our Holly Hoop run, but I'm still recovering from the event and from family being in town. I thought I would give a quick little preview of the event.
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| Registration Desk with maps and pink wristbands |
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| West Salem girls came to support me and even made me a Holly Hoop tee- shirt. Such good friends. |
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| We had a matte to sign for Vienne and her family. |
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| We had a beautiful video showing of Vienne. It was the video that was shown at her funeral. She is absolutely darling and I'm glad people who never knew her (including myself) were able to watch her in the video and get an idea of what a beautiful, happy little girl she is. |
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| At the start. Since the weather was off and on crazy that day, my Dad cleaned out his garage so people could hide from the rain. Here is Nick giving some instructions to some volunteers. |
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Some Race Stuff
Just wanted to give you a little heads up on details for the race.
- Runners are allowed to check in at 2 p.m., but the race will start at 3:33 p.m.
- We would love for everyone to get there by 3:15 p.m. because we would like to take a picture at the race start before we take off.
- We will not, however, have much going on before the race. Just a few videos to watch, some things to sign. And we will be outside rain or shine, so please be prepared for that.
- When you are there, you will have a chance to sign a frame for Holland and another frame for Vienne (which we will be giving to her family), so if you are interested, try to make sure to get around to signing those.
- After the race, we will have light food and water.
- Runners are allowed to check in at 2 p.m., but the race will start at 3:33 p.m.
- We would love for everyone to get there by 3:15 p.m. because we would like to take a picture at the race start before we take off.
- We will not, however, have much going on before the race. Just a few videos to watch, some things to sign. And we will be outside rain or shine, so please be prepared for that.
- When you are there, you will have a chance to sign a frame for Holland and another frame for Vienne (which we will be giving to her family), so if you are interested, try to make sure to get around to signing those.
- After the race, we will have light food and water.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Parking and Directions
We are so excited for Saturday, and praying for at least not much rain (I think in Oregon praying for anything more would be just greedy and unrealistic). Just wanted to give a few heads up to everyone about parking and arriving:
There are two locations that we were thinking we could have people park.
1. On Fir Ridge Road.
2. At Hope Community Church just as you turn off Boones Ferry.
If you have a large group of people, you may want to have everyone dropped off at the start and then park at the church, because it's about 1/3 mile walk from there to the start, and it's uphill. Here is a map of the start location and hopefully you can see where available parking will be. It's going to be a crowded little area, so please be cautious.
https://maps.google.com/maps?hl=en&q=2950+Wembley+Park+Road+Lake+Oswego&ie=UTF-8&hq=&hnear=0x549573415a66b791:0x73aef5c9d2a27325,2950+Wembley+Park+Rd,+Lake+Oswego,+OR+97034&gl=us&ei=TqF8UIWxCaW5iwKOrIGABA&ved=0CCEQ8gEwAA
Registration
The start will be held at David and Stacy Ainge's home: Holland's Papa and Nona. If you walk to the left of the house past the garages, you will see the registration table.
There are two locations that we were thinking we could have people park.
1. On Fir Ridge Road.
2. At Hope Community Church just as you turn off Boones Ferry.
If you have a large group of people, you may want to have everyone dropped off at the start and then park at the church, because it's about 1/3 mile walk from there to the start, and it's uphill. Here is a map of the start location and hopefully you can see where available parking will be. It's going to be a crowded little area, so please be cautious.
https://maps.google.com/maps?hl=en&q=2950+Wembley+Park+Road+Lake+Oswego&ie=UTF-8&hq=&hnear=0x549573415a66b791:0x73aef5c9d2a27325,2950+Wembley+Park+Rd,+Lake+Oswego,+OR+97034&gl=us&ei=TqF8UIWxCaW5iwKOrIGABA&ved=0CCEQ8gEwAA
Registration
The start will be held at David and Stacy Ainge's home: Holland's Papa and Nona. If you walk to the left of the house past the garages, you will see the registration table.
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Running for Vienne
I have been thinking for a while about how we would go about donating towards a family who has a lost a child. I have searched and searched obituaries the last few months. I have thought about it, talked about it with several people and have never felt right about any of the situations. And then I received an email from one of Nick's co-workers about a family in the Beaverton area, and I could not stop thinking about this family. They lost their four year old daughter, Vienne on September 6th, 2012. The circumstances surrounding her death were similar to SIDS in that they were shocking and unexpected. The cause of death is still not determined. She is such a beautiful little girl, and I don't feel like it's a coincidence that I came to know about this family. The donations that we receive on race day will be given to this sweet family. Vienne's Dad, Mom, and 9 month old sister will also be there on the 20th to join in remembering Holland and Vienne.
To learn more about Vienne, you can go to the blog created for her here.
For those that are interested in making a donation, but not able to attend the race, please e-mail me at nickandlexie@gmail.com.
Monday, October 8, 2012
Remembering
For those of you who are just learning about the loss of our Holland (or if you just want to cry :) ), here are some links to old posts about Holland.
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| Briz with Holland at the hospital the day she was born. She wanted to help with everything. She was very curious about her baby sister. |
Saturday, October 6, 2012
Traditions
One of the greatest fears after Holland died was that I would forget her. I figured other people would a little bit. People are sad for her death in the moment and then life get busy, people move on. I know that I will always miss her and want to not get so caught up in my own busy life that I forget to include her in them. So we have started a few traditions. Here they are:
1. On her birthday, we let go of balloons with messages written on them. We send them up to the sky at 3:33 p.m. My favorite thing about this is how much Briz loved doing it and how much I hope my future children will love it. We also buy her one present: one that she would like for the age that she would be. We eat cake and sing Happy Birthday.
2. We visit her grave either on the 22nd or the 23rd of the month. Her birthday was August 23 and she died on October 22nd, so both of those dates have special meaning for us.
3. We visit her grave after we get back from a vacation. We always buy/collect some kind of present that will be durable outside and we take it to her grave. We tell her about our vacation. Briz has gotten very good about talking directly to her little sister. She has very frank and funny conversations with her. I love it.
4. The weekend before Holly Day (October 22), we will be doing our Holly Hoop race. We will collect donations for another family who has recently lost a loved one. And then on the actual Holly Day we are going to take the family the donation we received, some flowers, maybe a book about grieving, and just let them know how sorry we are.
5. Christmas Eve at some point during the day, we sing carols to Holland. This year, we might be gone for Christmas, so we will have to think of an alternative. We also watch our videos of Holland on Christmas eve. And then the morning of Christmas, we have a stocking prepared for her and that is the first thing we open. It is generally filled with things that remind us of eternity. She gets her annual ornament in there as well.
A few other things I have done to help me grieve:
- we made a book out of our funeral service. We collected the talks and added pictures.
- Out of Nick's talk, we made a picture book that we read to Briz fairly frequently. It's a story about our family that Nick turned into a little fairy tale.
- We have our Holly Tree out front that we look at every day
- I made a card book out of pictures of Holland and cards that people have sent us over the last year
- Nick is making a blanket (that's right, he's sewing it all on his own!) from onesies that Holland wore a lot.
- We have our Holland display in our guest bedroom. Eventually, when we're ready, we'll move it into a trunk or chest of some kind that we will keep out so we have easy access to it.
I am not trying to do a humble brag with this post :); just wanted to share our world of grieving a bit. It tends to be such a private and isolated thing. I like the thought of sharing it. It's a strange world to be a part of now, but regardless, it is the world Nick and I live in.
I feel like I can never do enough to remember her. I am still constantly thinking of what else I can do. I thought that maybe I could set an extra plate for her at Thanksgiving (does that feel too passoverish? :)). Remembering her in these consistent ways has helped Nick and I grieve. It is still so so hard, but it helps. And anything that can help in my opinion is a good thing (ruling out drugs and alcohol . . . right now anyways).
1. On her birthday, we let go of balloons with messages written on them. We send them up to the sky at 3:33 p.m. My favorite thing about this is how much Briz loved doing it and how much I hope my future children will love it. We also buy her one present: one that she would like for the age that she would be. We eat cake and sing Happy Birthday.
2. We visit her grave either on the 22nd or the 23rd of the month. Her birthday was August 23 and she died on October 22nd, so both of those dates have special meaning for us.
3. We visit her grave after we get back from a vacation. We always buy/collect some kind of present that will be durable outside and we take it to her grave. We tell her about our vacation. Briz has gotten very good about talking directly to her little sister. She has very frank and funny conversations with her. I love it.
4. The weekend before Holly Day (October 22), we will be doing our Holly Hoop race. We will collect donations for another family who has recently lost a loved one. And then on the actual Holly Day we are going to take the family the donation we received, some flowers, maybe a book about grieving, and just let them know how sorry we are.
5. Christmas Eve at some point during the day, we sing carols to Holland. This year, we might be gone for Christmas, so we will have to think of an alternative. We also watch our videos of Holland on Christmas eve. And then the morning of Christmas, we have a stocking prepared for her and that is the first thing we open. It is generally filled with things that remind us of eternity. She gets her annual ornament in there as well.
A few other things I have done to help me grieve:
- we made a book out of our funeral service. We collected the talks and added pictures.
- Out of Nick's talk, we made a picture book that we read to Briz fairly frequently. It's a story about our family that Nick turned into a little fairy tale.
- We have our Holly Tree out front that we look at every day
- I made a card book out of pictures of Holland and cards that people have sent us over the last year
- Nick is making a blanket (that's right, he's sewing it all on his own!) from onesies that Holland wore a lot.
- We have our Holland display in our guest bedroom. Eventually, when we're ready, we'll move it into a trunk or chest of some kind that we will keep out so we have easy access to it.
I am not trying to do a humble brag with this post :); just wanted to share our world of grieving a bit. It tends to be such a private and isolated thing. I like the thought of sharing it. It's a strange world to be a part of now, but regardless, it is the world Nick and I live in.
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